What Must Change?

Typically we assume people are looking for solutions when they find themselves in conflict. I say that if you take an account of how people go about obtaining those solutions the preferred solution in a remarkably high percentage of cases is that human beings believe others outside of them should change! No kidding listen to yourself the next time something in your family, company or church needs to change for you. I have found this to be truer in the “Church” than secularly and in my experience, it is powerfully connected to assuming that the “Church” has the answer and therefore it is those on the outside that have the problem. Unwittingly, this fundamental assumption and its companion attitudes catalyze the continuance of what we say we really don’t want.

What if there is something in our conflicts with others individually as well as socially we want more than solutions? Is it possible that our conflicts individually and collectively share the same root causes? Further, what if we both as individuals and as a body are by unconscious design misunderstanding the causes of our conflicts and thus ignorantly perpetuating the very problems we say we are dedicated to resolve?

How many of us are even able to walk in the light in this way? (By suspending our need to be right about our solutions and the thinking that generated them, long enough to investigate them the way we would want others to investigate their own thinking.) And if we are unable to even challenge ourselves in this way, how can we expect to ever resolve the problems our own thinking creates?

If thinking is as powerful as we culturally acknowledge it is, what really needs to change? And where can you go to have these kinds of conversations?